Unstuck Newsletter #014 (May-27-2020)

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Hello online friends,

It’s me, Ivaylo Durmonski. And this is the 14th edition of Unstuck. A weekly newsletter designed to help people navigate in this disoriented world, make progress, and become more rational. By sharing the lessons I learn from the books I read (and other interesting things), I want to help more people find direction in this directionless world.

Here’s how half the population approaches life: Your skills and qualities are predetermined. You need talent to succeed and pushing your kids to get good grades is your afternoon activity.

Here’s how the other half thinks about the same things: If you want something, you need to work for it. Talent is good only if you develop it. Yelling at your kids about grades won’t do the job, you need to teach them that failing is part of the journey. What matters is becoming a little better with each day.

Clearly, the two groups are not equal. The ratio between the two is probably around 85% to 15%. 85% representing the folks who are certain that Michael Jordan was born nearly flying.

Or in other words, a major part of the population have a fixed mindset. Yes, sadly most of us bet everything on talent and when things don’t work out, we either blame the person sitting next to us or we never make a second attempt – or both.

Luckily, you can change your perspective – if you want to, of course.

The newest book summary published will walk you through the steps.

Book Summary:

  • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success: Count on your talent? Blame others when you don’t past the test? That’s your fixed mindset speaking. To flourish, realize that life is an endless cycle of learning. Change your mindset to a growth mindset to change your life.

Which book should I read next?

Once a month, I ask readers (you) what book to read and summarize in the coming weeks. Here are the choices for this month:

  1. Bullshit Jobs: A Theory by David Graeber – LINK;
  2. Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day by Jake Knapp – LINK;
  3. The Squiggly Career: Ditch the Ladder, Embrace Opportunity and Carve Your Own Path Through the Squiggly World of Work by Helen Tupper – LINK;

Simply reply with 1, 2, or 3 to vote for one of the books above. This Friday, I’ll count the votes and start reading the winner book.

Weekly Finds:

  • Resilience: You don’t need a jumbo-sized watch on your wrist to tell time or a wardrobe full of branded sneakers to go outside. You “need” these things because other people have them. Our core needs are much simpler. What can you do then? Become resistant to external stimuli.
  • 68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice: Kevin Kelly, the author of the amazing book The Inevitable, recently published an article where he shared 68 advice about living well. Why 68? Because he’s now 68 years old.
  • The Psychology of Human Misjudgment, by Charlie Munger: A great old school speech (+ transcript) by Charlie Munger. Most of the behavioral patterns he shares might sound obvious and non-threatening to you, but it’s always good to remind ourselves what type of foolish thing we can do to protect ourselves. “The reality is too painful to bear, so you just distort it until it’s bearable.”

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Thank you for your time!


Ivaylo Durmonski

P.S. You must be a super reader since you’re paying attention to the postscript. Virtual high five! A question: Do you want more “stuff” in the Weekly Finds section or 3 items is enough? 

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